Good day to All. This Month’s Food for Thought is about, of course, Love.
We all love in one way or another. We love our Parents, sometimes. (Not true). We always love our parents and siblings. But, sometimes, we may not like them very much. It is hoped that we truly love our spouses or significant others. But, again, sometimes we don’t like them very much. We also love our children, unconditionally, and still have times we don’t like them.
Another person we love unconditionally but sometimes don’t like is ourselves. Our ability to love is always there. However, we may, occasionally, cut ourselves off from it. Meaning we don’t give love and refuse to accept love. As an example? We get burned by a spouse or lover. It hurts. And we shut down to stop being hurt. Unfortunately, we also shut down our ability to love ourselves. Over the years we close ourselves off completely. It seems like love has deserted us and we fall into a pit of negativity wondering why no one loves us, why we can’t find happiness anymore and why we are so lonely. The negativity flows from us like smoke from a factory. We create this emotional and mental situation ourselves.
The primary ingredient in any reciprocal form of love, is that we first love ourselves. I know, it’s very difficult to do when we start thinking and feeling it’s all our fault. We beat ourselves up over the things we could have said or done and then we don’t like ourselves very much. Loving yourself is primary to anyone being able to love you in return. Loving yourself is about focusing on your accomplishments and being proud of what you have done. Applauding yourself for seeing things through to the end and not giving up.
Negativity has no place in self-love. Think about it. If you look in the mirror and nit-pick every feature of your face like the nose is too big, eyes are too small, the skin is too sallow, etc., you will convince yourself that you are ugly. If you continue to do this every day, you will see yourself getting uglier every day. The mind sees what you tell it to see. And it doesn’t take much for your mind to start believing it. Focus on what you do like. Are your eyes a beautiful summer’s day blue, a warm, sultry sherry brown? Are they a cool gray that changes color with the sunshine, rain or your emotions? Build your beautiful face from what you like most. Add something beautiful to it every day.
It’s the same with the emotions of the heart. Do you belittle yourself because you face change with fear and anger? STOP IT!!! Change is as much a part of life, as water is a part of the earth. When you accept that nothing stays the same forever, face the new challenges with hope, love and determination. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not necessarily YOUR fault. It may have been about one of those lessens we all have to learn to grow. Embrace it. And try again. Embrace your ability to love yourself, unconditionally!! We all have flaws that we must accept in order to correct them. There is no quick fix. Not if you want it to last a lifetime. But once you reconnect with self-love, all the other forms of love follow. People will feel the positivity exuding from you like beam of sunlight. They will come to you. They will want to be with you and around you because you are showing them the positive vibration and energy of loving yourself. Unconditionally!
Think about it……and feed your mind with positive food.
Blessed Be.